The need to implicitly show sexual attraction arose in an era of strict rules and regulations, when attitude toward the intimate process was taboo by moral codes and church standards. The man and the woman had to demonstrate to their partner a willingness to act without fear of publicity and public censorship. It was in such cases that non-verbal signals conveyed sympathy and desire.
Wanting a woman and not showing her is wrong, from a normal man's point of view. Therefore, a potential partner, unconsciously or unconsciously, tries to demonstrate his interest to the object of desire through sexual gestures and postures.
When a man sees an attractive woman, he involuntarily begins to give an "alpha male". It denotes preparation for intercourse with confident postures and showing a high tone of the physical state of one's own body. This is usually seen in the following manifestations:
- the man straightens his back and straightens the shoulders;
- tries to go deeper into the stomach;
- if a man is standing, his legs are shoulder-width apart, showing special stability and a strong position;
- it is also important to follow the position of the socks of the man's shoes, if he is interested in an attractive person, then they will be directed to this woman;
- if a man is sitting in a chair, he will involuntarily spread his legs apart, as if showing his own genitals, ready to mate.
The excited man begins to straighten his clothes and hair, hoping to catch the woman's attention with his appearance. Instead of an angular, heavy gait, he moves quickly, like an athlete, while correcting flaws in the figure, straightening up and removing his belly
A shine appears in the eyes, the facial skin tightens automatically and the bags under the eyes disappear on their own. In general, passion makes a person much younger and much more desirable to a friend.
Today, such a gesture is rarely used, and many have already forgotten about it, but even fifty years ago, thumbs placed behind a trouser belt meant rude and ostentatious action towards a woman, aimed at showing their owngenitals.
The delay in man's gaze on the object of his lust speaks volumes. When he looks a woman in the eye for a little longer than the rules of decency dictate, it indicates his excitement and his willingness to have closer contact.
Factors affecting attraction
Several factors can affect the level of libido in men. This factor should include:
- Visual image. The fact is that the face of a beloved girl, the attractive smile of a stranger, as well as any other eye contact with a sexual connotation, are capable of arousing a man. At the same time, after such signals, images of future sexual intercourse with a woman begin to appear in her head.
- Excitement of the smell. The smell has an exciting effect on representatives of the stronger sex, in particular, a natural female aroma has a similar property. Essential oil and pheromones are often included in some mild pathogens.
- Audience. Excitation by auditory contact is also possible. The sound of a name, a soft whisper can have an aphrodisiac effect for men.
- To taste. Not many people know this, but arousal can also be increased by certain aphrodisiac foods that increase blood flow to the genitals. These include nuts, seafood, bananas, honey, and chocolate.
- Keys. Of course, the more powerful will be the excitement of the touch. In this case, we are talking about a naturally physiological reaction. Any healthy man will get an erection even after short masturbation. Increased arousal during intercourse.
From the first contact
Contacts have a strong character, they are sometimes the ones who betray a complete male desire to be closer to a partner. Watch the guy's behavior: if he is interested in you, he will do everything possible to please down to the smallest detail. With short-lived or spontaneous contact with the body or hand, a guy may feel goosebumps all over his body which will speak of his arousal, an increased desire to take possession of you.
If a young man has sympathy for you, he will do everything possible to demonstrate it in practice. He will unwittingly try to take your hand, touch your knees, pluck his eyes, alluding to an increased desire to continue a pleasant evening.
Touch sometimes reveals more than the eyes.
The trembling of the hands, a certain caution, the fear of frightening the partner immediately betray the man's excitement.
With touch, he begins to say pleasant words, to turn pale, to blush sometimes, to feel a wave of goosebumps when the tactile contact occurs with each other. At this moment, information is generated in the human brain, which directs its signals there, which he "thinks" in such situations.
Signs of sexual arousal in men
Sexual arousal is a kind of stress on the body and is accompanied by increased blood pressure, increased heart rate and breathing, and dilated pupils. Therefore, an indirect sign can be a certain emotion of a man, a voice coarser than usual.
The maina sign of sexual arousalin men, an erection occurs when the penis is filled with blood, and it becomes hard, the pressure increases, which can reach the blood pressure, which changes its shape somewhat and it increases in size, that is-to say. becomes 6-7 cm longer and 2-3 cm increases in diameter and becomes hard. This allows it to be inserted into the vagina during sex.
But it turns out that an erection does not occur due to various types of vascular disease, smoking, diabetes mellitus or some kind of stress and nervous or psychological disorders. All of these diseases make it difficult for arterial cells to relax and therefore sufficient blood flow is not ensured.
Arousal in men is much easier and faster than in women, and its strength depends on the presence of sufficient amount of hormones and strength in the body. In addition, the level of excitability depends on anthropology, for example, the little ones are more sexually attracted than the big ones.
Arousal in men can only arise with one thought about intercourse, and also quickly subsides after termination. Moreover, you can turn a man on by flirting with him, exposing your body, etc.
If a man is very excited then he has a conditionsexual arousaldisappears very quickly, and the process of ejecting semen occurs quickly. For men, in addition to the different kinds of caresses, sexual stimulants are also triggers. They can only be one type of a woman's genitals and touch them, as well as the feeling that a woman is in an aroused state. They also include various types of auditory, visual and nasal stimuli.
During intercourse itself, when rubbing his penis against the walls of the vagina, the nerve endings are even more irritated, and as a result, even greater arousal occurs, the man's face may begin toblush and he begins to breathe frequently. If the friction is stopped for a short time, a gradual flow of blood occurs and the penis begins to soften, if they resume, an erection occurs again and this, in turn, allows you to prolong the process ofsex.
The greatest sexual arousal and flow of pleasure in men is observed during orgasm and ejaculation, and the high, in turn, is divided into 3 stages: this is a gradual build-up of arousal, the highest degree of excitement, ie. orgasm itself and the stage of decline in arousal.
Before the onset of ejaculation, the man begins to feel the gentle contractions of the vas deferens and the bubbles, these sensations last a few seconds and are a sign of the onset of orgasm. These contractions stop after the sperm is released under high pressure, and the highs stop there too. Those. it only lasts a few seconds.
After the end of intercourse, the reverse process is observed, the so-called detumescence occurs. At the same time, there is a rapid flow of blood and a decrease in the size of the penis, and it becomes limp, but if a man is strongly attracted to his partner, this process may take a little longer.
In men, as in women, after the sensation of orgasm there is a sensation of refractory pause, this is the period when arousal does not occur even after erogenous exposure. The duration of this period in humans is different and can vary from a few minutes to several days.
Scientists identify several factors for the normal course of the process of intercourse, including: - neurohumoral, that is, the process of blood circulation, providing an influx of hormones, which contributes to the appearance of sexual desire andexcitement; - mental, contributing to the appearance of an erection just before the start of sexual intercourse; - erection, contributing to the stimulation of the penis; - ejaculatory, ensuring ejaculation.
How do you know if a guy is horny?
Of course, for a permanent member. That's what a lot of girls think. But it's wrong. After all, an erection may not be full, not strong, or even absent when aroused. Therefore, staring between the legs of his beloved is definitely not an option.
The guy's excitement is also manifested by such signs as:
- Rapid breathing
- Conversation on intimate subjects;
- Heart disease;
- Confusion of thought;
- A strangled voice.
In addition, the young man may start to touch or assault you. He can't control himself. He seems to have drunk a little, although he is sober.
The pupils of such a person are dilated and the gaze is a bit silly. By the way, excitement in girls manifests itself in much the same way.
In this case, it's worth considering the big picture. The excitement shows in everything. After all, if his heart just beats or if he smiles often, that doesn't mean. that he wants you. Maybe the person is just shy.
Signs of a guy's excitement
There are several other indirect signs that he desires privacy:
- The thirst. Unless, of course, it's really not that hot now;
- Inhibition, or vice versa, great activity of movements;
- Adjust your clothes, hairstyles, etc. ;
- Suck on the abdomen and straighten the back;
- Unexpected embarrassment.
Moreover, a horny person will undress you with his eyes, even if he is the most cultured guy in the world. And sometimes he may just leave you (in the sense of home), afraid of his feelings. It is possible on the first dates. If you have not only met him, then rather, in this state, he will come home to you.
And don't forget the cock. It is (albeit stupid) but a proven method. Try to look at it thinner than the belt. If there is "something sticking out" there is 100% excitement.
What turns guys on?
Almost anything can turn a young person on. Starting with topless and ending with simple conversations. Male sexuality is conceived in such a way that sexual desire comes quickly and is transmitted through images. In other words, he doesn't need a romantic evening and candles to desire you.
Many don't know it, but mundane hugs turn guys on. Indeed, during this process, the young girl is pressed against her chest. This is why you shouldn't hug your friend often if you don't plan on admitting them to your bed.
Remember that a guy can be turned on: panties protruding from under jeans, fishnet tights, a short skirt, a big cutout on a dress, tight pants, like leggings, etc. Therefore, you don't have to wear anything frank if you don't want to be looked at like a piece of meat.
Excitatory factors
Factors affecting arousal in the fair sex are as follows:
- To like. The most important pathogen for women is just this feeling. Girls always need to whisper kind words in her ear. At the same time, love wins not only in words, but also in deeds. Therefore, a man should not be stingy with generous chivalrous acts.
- The smell of a man. This factor largely determines the possibility of interaction between a woman and a man. In this case, we are talking about natural pheromones. If we are talking about perfume, here you need to approach very carefully, carefully choosing one or another perfume for yourself. Therefore, a man should not skimp on such an important aspect.
- Appearance. This factor is also of great importance in arousal. A stately representative of the stronger sex who goes to the gym, takes care of her body and health is already interesting for a woman. In addition, you need to monitor the condition of your hair, nails, and even clothing. A woman can be turned on by a nice tie, a nice suit, a lightly unbuttoned shirt, the right underwear and much more. It's also worth noting that some women may be turned on by the slightly spiky stubble, hairy, strong arms, and the feel of a masculine tree. As for the latter, it is already posed by nature.
- Situation. The setting, the meeting or the date are especially important for awakening. Many people always strive for the best, the arrangement of things in this case is no exception. It should also include music, which can add more euphoria to a date, a beautiful place, delicious food, which also includes the aphrodisiacs described above.
Erogenous zones
Some women assume that there is only one erogenous zone in the male body and that it is located in the groin area. In fact, everything is a little different. There are many more erogenous zones in the body of the stronger sex. To grant a partner to intimacy, you will need to appeal to your imagination and resort to the help of not only hands, but also lips.
Where are the erogenous zones in men:
- Face and neck area. Scientists have been able to prove that these places are very sensitive. Stimulating these areas will help arouse desire in the gentleman. You can touch your neck with your fingertips, massage your earlobes, and kiss your loved one on the face.
- Chest and back. Sex therapists recommend starting to flirt with your loved one, alternately touching the surface of his back and chest. You can also use the boyfriend's shoulders, they are advised to massage gently, making waves movements. The back is massaged over the entire spine, the touch is soft and smooth. But often, it is enough just to approach the man from the back and to pass the hands on his chest, towards the lower abdomen.
- Nipples. This erogenous zone is distinguished by its great sensitivity. Touching this area can give pleasure to your partner and may cause discomfort. Because the sensitivity of each of the stronger sex is a purely individual matter.
- Stomach. This is an area that requires special attention. You can touch it with your hands, lips and even your head. In Thailand and beyond, crown massage is very common. It is performed by following certain rules: the girl sits on her partner, tilts her head and touches the top of her head against her stomach in circular movements. The diameter of the circle gradually increases. Such a massage will not only help arouse a man, but also increase his sexual activity.
- Hands and fingers. To stay in bed with a loved one for a long time, you need to pay attention to the palms of his hands. They can be: rubbed, kissed, ironed. There are nerve endings at the fingertips, they improve the transmission of impulses to the brain.
- Inside thigh. To quickly put your partner in a good mood, it is worth giving him a foot massage, by all means affecting this area. Blood circulates through the arteries to the organs of the reproductive system, a foot massage will improve blood circulation and provide a long-lasting erection. For this reason, it is used in the treatment of impotence.
How to quickly excite a loved one in bed with his hands and his caresses? To do this, you need to hug your partner by the chest with your hands and press against their back with your bare chest.
For "everything to work", and for the partner to be delighted with the intimacy with his beloved, it is necessary to be liberated, to be active. The main thing is to feel the man, this will allow you to predict his desires, to read the most intimate thoughts.
Does the guy have to be horny or is he already horny?
There are many ways to check if your lover wants sexual contact right now. As you know, an erection is the most striking sign of male arousal, however, it is of course not always possible to verify this. Therefore, it is worth knowing a few other less visible details that will betray the secret desires of your partner.
- Physiological signs. During arousal, small changes begin to occur in the work of the male body - the pulse quickens, sweating increases, and a slight tremor of the hands and voice is possible. The latter, moreover, often becomes serious and slightly hoarse, acquiring velvety and playful notes.
- View. If a guy wants you, he'll literally eat your body with his eyes. In general, the state of male arousal is similar to a light trance, which will not be difficult to see in his eyes.
- Posture and gestures. A man burning with sexual desire will always keep his body turned towards you. Often, guys strike a pose of a confident macho, crossing their hands on the belt and slightly pushing the body forward, as if demonstrating their dignity. Although this does not always work - it all depends on the character of the person and their self-esteem Pay attention to the position of the shoes - if the guy wants you, the socks of his shoes will definitely point in your direction
- Speak. If a man's thoughts are preoccupied with your body, there may be long pauses in conversation. This means that your lover is so engrossed in his sexual fantasies that the ability to think about other things simply disappears.
Words and caresses
If your loved one is in no rush to go to bed, you should try to arouse them with words. You may have a rich vocabulary and know your partner's preferences, but still feel uncomfortable whispering various phrases to them.
Words and sentences are chosen individually, it depends a lot on the receptivity of the gentleman. But to get the best result, you need to fill in the words with affection.
Hugging is a broad concept that can include hands, feet, kisses, and other elements of love play. However, oral contact is also referred to as caressing, as well as intimate massage.
If a decision has been made to influence the loved one in a holistic way, you can combine affection, kisses, caressing with words. This will allow the man to reach the peak of arousal more quickly.
If all of the above methods do not work, then you should consider using the pathogen. Aphrodisiacs, lubricants, tablets and creams act as such a remedy. But it is better to coordinate their use with a partner - this will help to avoid embarrassing situations.
Clear attention signs
In fact, it's not hard to figure out if a man wants you. He won't hide it much.
It is important for women not to show sympathy and to be modest, mysterious, to intrigue and to make men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is organized differently - its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent
Most likely, a man will show signs of attention, because he not only wants a woman - he is certainly thinking how to get it. And to achieve this, you need to constantly take care of her, give her beautiful gifts and flowers, give her beautiful compliments, etc.
Having sex drive will make him choose special gifts and say special words. It will be different from the romantic youthful impulses and will certainly have a subtle sexual connotation. So you can reliably and accurately understand what is going on in the mind of the gentleman.
If he has presented you with sexy lingerie, a negligee or a dressing gown, it is already an open offer, and not even a clue. But this rarely happens, more often than not a man who wants a woman gives him very cute trinkets - sweet bears, cute jewelry, bouquets and candy.
He suddenly became so beautiful. . .
Any man fully understands that in order for you to fall into his strong arms, he has to be attractive.
So he suddenly changes - he puts on cool shirts, he still smells good and you can't remember when he was unshaven.
Appearance will give you a straight answer - if he always looks neat and fresh, goes to a meeting with you, then he is likely to be attracted and hoping to get you.
The hands stretch out like a magnet. . .
For every man, the female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, first of all he will have an overwhelming desire to touch. Simple, friendly touches are easy to distinguish from those with a sexual connotation.
If her touches are gentle, very light, often as if they were accidental, this is a clear sign of sexual desire.
It is also worth knowing the places where the hands of men reach. This place is slightly below the waist (a well-behaved man is unlikely to grab you by the buttocks, although he will certainly have such an urge), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.
Plus, men are always very excited about the feminine scent. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man tries to smell you - to say something in his ear, to breathe in the smell of your hair, to kiss you, to inhale the smell of perfume.
He is better than the others!
If you are with the man you have chosen in a joint venture, and there are other representatives of his sex, he will obviously try to be better than the others.
Men by nature are leaders, conquerors, it is very important that they are the first. So he will do his best to be much better than the others in order to reach your location.
In general, it won't be difficult for a woman to determine that a man wants her very much.
Everything about him betrays this desire: the eyes become like a trail, the gaze wanders and cannot stop in front of your eyes, he is a little nervous, pays obvious attention and seems to look at you like a predatory animal.
Even the most modest and shy guy will not be able to hide his desire. It's too strong, and somehow it will manifest itself again.
How to use this knowledge is another matter. A woman is born to be admired, to be the object of lust and dreams.